Sometimes I get so caught up in planning and scheduling activities for my children that I miss out on spending quality time with them. There never seems to be enough hours in the day and it can be a struggle to divide my attention between three kids. However, they don’t want to hear excuses, they just want my undivided attention.
Why Spend Quality Time With Your Kids
Setting aside time to spend with your children shows them that you value them and are genuinely interested in their lives. When you spend time with your children, you get a chance to know them as people and not just as your offspring. You are able to find out things such as what they like,what their interests are, their goals and aspirations, etc.
Establishing a positive relationship with your kids now sets the stage for how they will relate to you later. If your child feels comfortable talking to you about mundane things, they will be more likely to talk to you about serious things when they occur. So get your planner and make a date. Below are ten fun ways you can spend quality time with your child.
1. Prepare a meal together. This is a great way to get two things done at once. You can make dinner and spend time with your child! My son loves to help me out in the kitchen and we have had some of the best talks while cooking.
2. Going for a walk. These days it can be a challenge to get kids outside, but if they have you as a companion they might be more open to the idea of being outdoors. My middle child loves to go on early morning walks so he can watch the sun rise. He won’t talk much, but these quiet moments together still strengthen our relationship with each other.
3. Play your child’s favorite game with them. Kids love to play and when you join in the fun you become more human in their eyes. Playing a board or video game with your child brings you into their world. My son gets so excited when he talks to me about playing chess or Minecraft. I get to see how he thinks and in turn develop a better understanding of who he is as a person and not just as my child.
4. Listen to music together. You can learn a lot from listening to music with children, especially a tween. My son hates when I interrogate him, but he will talk forever about song lyrics and how they apply to him. Listening to music with your child also gives you a chance to really hear what music is influencing them.
5. Build something. This could be a project you do in one setting or one that takes a while longer to complete. Last summer I worked with my son to make a train out of cardboard boxes which took a couple of weeks. However, you could also whip out Legos and build to your heart’s content.
6. Go to the playground. Bringing your kids to the park and teaching them games you used to play when you were younger is not only a lot of fun, it also gives your kids a chance to learn more about you. Building a relationship with your child can’t be one sided. It’s important that your child gets to know you as well.
7. Go on a bike ride. Not only is bike riding a good way to burn some calories, it’s also a fun activity you can do with your child. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t been on a bike in years. I promise, it really does come back to you as soon as you start to pedal!
8. Watch a movie. Be open to watching a movie that your child enjoys. My son and I have had some great conversations about issues that came up in a movie we watched together. You can also use movie time together to expose your child to some movies or shows you watched as a kid. My husband and sons found the original Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle’s show on YouTube and their thing is to watch it on weekends.
9. Visit a bookstore or library. In this digital age kids don’t often get to be around actual books nearly enough. Taking them to the library or book store is a fun way to nurture a love of books and reading in your child.
10. Go fishing. I’m not big into fishing. I don’t like touching worms or doing any thing in silence for more than five minutes. However, the relaxed atmosphere that is present when you go fishing makes it a great way to bond with your child.
What are some activities you enjoy doing with your children?
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